Okay, I haven't had this blog or site up for very long at all. But, people have been asking me what I mean in my 'About' section when I say..."The secret to "making it" is quite simple in fact, it isn't a secret at all. It's all about having passion and a plan. It's about replacing doubt with a sincere belief in where and who you are meant to be" Most people understand the passion part. And, even if they aren't completely sure what I mean by "a plan" they agree that some kind of realistic, workable plan is needed. It's that replacing doubt with belief.
I have tried to explain it as being a belief that nobody can possibly take from you. Here's a really silly example. Once, while out with friends, we met a man who works in a lab that makes glasses and contact lenses. He complimented the color of my contact lenses. (???) I thanked him but told him that they were my real eyes. He responded with..."Hey don't kid a kidder. I've been making those lenses for over 20 years...I'm a pro." I sort of laughed and said "okay, whatever??" I really didn't feel the need to argue with him. Nor, did I feel any need to run home and check my eyes with thoughts of "Maybe they are contacts...Maybe my parents had them put into my eyes when I was so young that I don't remember" Nope, I didn't do any of that. I know these eyes are the ones I was born with and no "pro" or "expert" was going to say anything to cause me a second of doubt.
So, I said it was a very silly analogy. BUT...It's the same thing. When you believe relentlessly in what you are able to do, who you are, or why you are here, nobody is going to be able to shake your confidence. No amount of rejection...NONE.Why can't we be just as unwilling to be shaken when it comes to... "I am smart enough", "I am talented enough" of "I am lovable enough" as we are when it comes to the easy stuff, like our eye color?
It is the first step to having your dreams become reality. Besides the fact that this belief will carry you through all the bumps in the road and set backs, it will also probably mean you have much less of them. There is something very attracting about this confidence too. It isn't conceit. Or a "I'm the best" kind of attitude. It is just a confidence that doesn't even need to be spoken. Maybe it's a calmness that goes along with this attitude?
And yes, I know this is all a theory and there is no way to prove it. But, I've seen it over and over again. I've seen people with the right belief go farther than others with way more talent.
The hard part is how to substitute the doubts we have walked around with for decades with an unshakeable belief? That is the real challenge. For me it's a constant challenge. But... it can be done. Sometimes it happens automatically even if other aspects of your life are filled with doubt.
When I was 15, I was so in love with 'The Ramones'. While the other girls were sweating over who would take them to the dance, my thoughts were all about Joey, Johnny, Dee Dee and ...whoever was the drummer at that particular moment (They had a bunch) I knew if I ever got to see them in concert there would be nothing on this planet that would stop me from getting back stage, meeting every one of them AND...making enough of an impression (and not an icky one) on them that the next time I saw them...They'd remember me. I finally got to see them in a stadium setting and there were 20,000 (I don't really know it was a big outdoor stadium like place and it was packed. Not as big a stadium like LP Field but that kind of set up.) Most of these people wanted to do the same thing that I wanted to do. The difference was...My brain couldn't take no for an answer. So, I was one of about 5 people who actually made it back stage. I got to meet them and a whole lot of other people way up in the music industry. It was the best time of my life up to that point and to this day remains right up there. I went to so many of their shows after that...I mean a lot well over 20 maybe somewhere in the 30's and was always remembered. That was the first time in my life that I believed I could make anything happen if I wanted it bad enough and couldn't believe in it NOT happening. This proved to be true for me every time. Of course some of the things I wanted...??? Well, that's the subject of another blog. So, now I'm going to let Mr. Tyler Perry explain it in a much better way than I can....
I have tried to explain it as being a belief that nobody can possibly take from you. Here's a really silly example. Once, while out with friends, we met a man who works in a lab that makes glasses and contact lenses. He complimented the color of my contact lenses. (???) I thanked him but told him that they were my real eyes. He responded with..."Hey don't kid a kidder. I've been making those lenses for over 20 years...I'm a pro." I sort of laughed and said "okay, whatever??" I really didn't feel the need to argue with him. Nor, did I feel any need to run home and check my eyes with thoughts of "Maybe they are contacts...Maybe my parents had them put into my eyes when I was so young that I don't remember" Nope, I didn't do any of that. I know these eyes are the ones I was born with and no "pro" or "expert" was going to say anything to cause me a second of doubt.
So, I said it was a very silly analogy. BUT...It's the same thing. When you believe relentlessly in what you are able to do, who you are, or why you are here, nobody is going to be able to shake your confidence. No amount of rejection...NONE.Why can't we be just as unwilling to be shaken when it comes to... "I am smart enough", "I am talented enough" of "I am lovable enough" as we are when it comes to the easy stuff, like our eye color?
It is the first step to having your dreams become reality. Besides the fact that this belief will carry you through all the bumps in the road and set backs, it will also probably mean you have much less of them. There is something very attracting about this confidence too. It isn't conceit. Or a "I'm the best" kind of attitude. It is just a confidence that doesn't even need to be spoken. Maybe it's a calmness that goes along with this attitude?
And yes, I know this is all a theory and there is no way to prove it. But, I've seen it over and over again. I've seen people with the right belief go farther than others with way more talent.
The hard part is how to substitute the doubts we have walked around with for decades with an unshakeable belief? That is the real challenge. For me it's a constant challenge. But... it can be done. Sometimes it happens automatically even if other aspects of your life are filled with doubt.
When I was 15, I was so in love with 'The Ramones'. While the other girls were sweating over who would take them to the dance, my thoughts were all about Joey, Johnny, Dee Dee and ...whoever was the drummer at that particular moment (They had a bunch) I knew if I ever got to see them in concert there would be nothing on this planet that would stop me from getting back stage, meeting every one of them AND...making enough of an impression (and not an icky one) on them that the next time I saw them...They'd remember me. I finally got to see them in a stadium setting and there were 20,000 (I don't really know it was a big outdoor stadium like place and it was packed. Not as big a stadium like LP Field but that kind of set up.) Most of these people wanted to do the same thing that I wanted to do. The difference was...My brain couldn't take no for an answer. So, I was one of about 5 people who actually made it back stage. I got to meet them and a whole lot of other people way up in the music industry. It was the best time of my life up to that point and to this day remains right up there. I went to so many of their shows after that...I mean a lot well over 20 maybe somewhere in the 30's and was always remembered. That was the first time in my life that I believed I could make anything happen if I wanted it bad enough and couldn't believe in it NOT happening. This proved to be true for me every time. Of course some of the things I wanted...??? Well, that's the subject of another blog. So, now I'm going to let Mr. Tyler Perry explain it in a much better way than I can....
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