Well let me backtrack a little. In January of 2012, I went to Houston and became certified as a life coach. I'm sure I would brag about it much more if I didn't hate the name so much. I mean I've been a vocal coach and a theatrical coach. I feel justified about using those titles because I have been studying these subjects for my entire life and coaching others for about half of it.
When you think of a football coach, you expect him to be an expert at football. Right? A dance coach to really know her way around the dance floor. So, when I hear the term "Life coach" I feel as though I am passing myself off as someone who is an expert on life itself. And nothing could be further from the truth. Really! I don't know if any of us get to be experts at life? Maybe some do? I don't see me in that group. Not ever.
In reality, all a life coach does is learn some amazing techniques and skills that when implemented with another person can help that person reach their goals faster and easier than if they were doing it alone.
I became interested in it after moving to Nashville. So many of my students were so ambitious and so talented but seemed to be spinning their wheels and getting nowhere. I thought this might be a great way to help them get where they wanted to be.
So, now, back to my story. She is one of the talented, ambitious singers of the Nashville area and she is beautiful too. Her name is Jane (No, it's not but too bad...I'm not telling you her name.) She has been working with me as a life coaching client for about a year. It wasn't as structured as the program I have in place now because I was still working out the glitches myself.
She is home schooled. She was bullied in middle school and it just made sense to home-school her. She has been planning to go back to public High School and she has been nervous. I have been working with her and her dreams of a career in performing. I know that these things can spill into other aspects of life but we were so driven and determined to get her somewhere with her singing that was all we were thinking about.
She is shy and was easily psyched out and repeatedly passed over on auditions but we kept at it and (long story a little shorter) guess what? She made it all the way to California and a few rounds past that with 'American Idol' last season and she is on the waiting list with 'The Voice'...She goes to these auditions now with her head held high as if she is doing them a favor by letting them hear her sing. The other girls don't intimidate her anymore. They want to know all about her. The judges are fascinated. The fact that she hasn't made it to the top 10 yet does not get her down because you have to hear a lot of no's before you get your big break. But she is getting there...Let me just say, this new found attitude of hers is no attitude at all. No conceit. Just genuine confidence.
When she came to my door saying "I'm ready" I thought she meant musically...in the way one would be ready for an audition. She didn't. I am paraphrasing but this is basically what she said...
"Why am I so worried about these people in H.S. after everything I've done in the past year? I have nothing to be scared of....There is no bully, no clique, no social group that is ever going to shake me from the confidence I worked so hard to earn....Who are they anyhow?"
These are powerful things. Confidence, self respect, going after what you want and what maybe already yours. Such as the right to go to school with out feeling victimized is remarkable. It doesn't make me like the term "life coach" any more than I did before but it makes me really happy that I'm a part of it.
I don't think all of my clients are going to be big stars. I tell them that up front. Many of them will have nice careers as performers without being famous and some will wind up being something completely different. But, I'd like to be able to promise them this. If they put in the work they will find confidence, self respect and peace in whatever they do. I don't know if it's my place to make that promise but I've decided it's what I'm going to aspire to.
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The program that I offer is called Music & Mindset. It's a one-on-one 3 month program with real out-in-the-world homework in the form of auditions or whatever "your thing is" There are also several radio interviews after the competition of the course...to talk about your experience, where you are going etc. (talking about the program is optional) Click HERE for the curriculum.... of course all of this isn't for everyone...It is tailored and tweaked.